What messages not to send a girl: Avoid these 2 messages to keep your dating life prosperous! |
You met this beautiful woman. The date went well. Your heart thinks she could be ‘the one’. He has officially taken over your thoughts. You’re daydreaming about him. And before you realize, you pick up your phone and text… the exact text that makes her want to run away from you!Blaine Anderson, a matchmaker and dating coach who has helped hundreds of people find their ideal partner, shares two specific messages you should never send to the woman you’re dating. No, these are not necessarily toxic or distorted, but rather wrong steps.Interestingly, men often send these messages to their girlfriends, without realizing that they are ruining a potential relationship! So what are these texts? Men, take notes!
Lesson 1: Did you get my message?
You went on a date. You feel there is a spark. It has the potential to become something more meaningful. You feel like he enjoyed the date as much as you did. You even sent him a message, and there was no response. You wonder if he has seen the message. So, you type next – did you get my text?Yes, it sounds innocent. Maybe even logical – you just want to confirm if he’s seen it. But according to Anderson, this isn’t something you should send. Just don’t send it! Why? “It immediately puts you in pursuit mode,” he explained in a video shared to Instagram.This may seem like a simple follow-up to you, but it still says something. It removes your restlessness and anxiety. This tells him that you are impatient, and the silence is killing you. In short, you are frustrated. That’s how she reads it.Now, do we want this? No,not at all. Because you are not following anyone. Let him answer. If she’s interested, she’ll respond, and that too on her own time. If not, your follow-up message won’t change anything! Patience is important here.
Lesson 2: When can I see you?
Now this may sound strange, but it comes from a good place. You both want to meet after your first date. The problem is real, but it’s not how you ask! The problem is of phrasing.When you ask him this question, you are delegating the decision making process to him. Like you’re just waiting for it to fit into his schedule. Healthy and equal relationships don’t work that way. The dating coach said, “When can I meet you? This text feels unnecessary. Instead, be clear and decisive.”A simple explanation might do the trick. Instead of being vague, propose something concrete. Ask, “Are you free on Thursday? Let’s have dinner.” That’s it. This way, you are sharing the burden of decision making. You are presenting a plan. You have made things easy for him. There is a difference between a person who makes an effort with direction and someone who hovers around waiting for an invitation!Anderson, who has helped hundreds of men find their ideal partner, knows a thing or two about modern dating. His suggestions seem practical and concrete. But by avoiding these two text messages, you’re not being indifferent or playing games; You’re just embracing the flow of things. You are acknowledging how much time your potential partner wants to take, and also offering help to make things go smoothly. You are being responsible, without being needy! And everyone likes a person with a plan.
